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December 20, 2008

Addiction Denial: Are You Acting Like Rod Blagojevich By Denying The Problem

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The public seems to be surprised by Rod Blagojevich and his repeated denial of the truth that is apparent about the scandal due to the evidence of wire tapping. How different is this than the response you might get when you discuss How to Stop Drinking or facing drug addiction to someone?

The out and out denial and often a self-righteous claim that the truth will be found is so similar to that of a binge drinking problem. Blagojevich has multiple tapings made about the corruption , everyone urging him to resign and the count for impeachment was over 100 to 0. Yet he continues his fight to stay in office and to contradict the obvious evidence of his guilt.

With drug addiction and drinking problems sometimes an Alcoholic Intervention gets the addict to see he really does have a problem, despite all his denials, excuses and blame throwing.

With all the news media coverage, this is a public type of intervention in a way, but it seems to be having the result of him Blagojevich digging in his heels in this “I will continue to fight” stance despite the exposure of the corruption, evidence about profit from trying to sell Obama’s seat in senate and denial of other misconduct that is exposed.

Persistence is a great quality when tied to truth but when it is just a form of intimidation based on lying it is pig-headedness.

The behavior is similar to someone that has an addiction they just can’t let go of or admit despite facts that show otherwise. Let go of defensiveness and your life can change for the better.


December 7, 2008

How to Deal with Adolescent Drug Rehab Issues

At the clinic I work at, I see many teenagers turning to pot and cocaine as well as cutting to deal with pain. Only a small percentage go to adolescent drug rehab programs. As I discuss the issues with them at the psychotherapy sessions, the main issues seem to revolve around tensions with friends, boyfriends, family conflicts and academic pressures.

It is easy to think a teen’s worries are insignificant and to tell them worrying about a boyfriend at age fourteen isn’t important. But, it is to a teen and adults alike, rejection can be very painful. As adults we are often good at building defenses and a wall, but many teens are vulnerable. Plus, they don’t have many of the outlets that adults have when things are stressful and creating inner anxiety. For instance, as an adult, we can jump in the car and take a ride, drive to the mall to shop, plan a girls night out to forget trouble etc. A teenager often can’t drive and has limited escape options for mental health. There isn’t the luxury of running to a pilates class or getting a massage to try to regain mental peace.

Of course, teens do have escape routes like anyone else to diffuse stress such as the internet, cell phone calls, texting and listening to music. Still, if the issues revolve around their friends or dates, many of the same people are interacting and it may just re-inforce the painfulness of the original interaction. If there is additional strain with the family then there just may not be any way it seems to feel good. Plus cell phones are often what are taken away when a teen is grounded so then they have no contact with friends. Adolescent drug rehab can help if the problem gets out of control. If it is occassional use, it’s important to help the person find other ways to feel good which can include exercise that releases endorphins, creative activities like drawing and music or relaxation techniques through tai-chi, meditation and yoga. Counseling is important and if you are in counseling yourself, a non threatening way to bring in your teen is to have them go with you to your session and see that it is not as scary as they thought.

If there are family pressures that are the source of the drug problem, brainstorm about an aunt or uncle that the teen can visit for a weekend to just get a new environment. This can help to get a break from each other. It often is hard for teens to open up and one way that is useful for parents is to talk about oneself honestly and an issue that one had and overcame. Don’t be preachy or give a lecture but talk about your own vulnerability, how you felt stuck and the difficult points. This is often why al-anon, aa and other twelve step groups work well because people are able to hear others experiences and understand their process, insights and trials. You gain perspective when you hear others with teens and alcohol concerns and also wisdom when you see how others deal with it successfully.

December 2, 2008

What Are the Effects of Alcoholism on Yourself and Family

Drinking effects both yourself and others. A great motivator is to think about how you want your life to be when you are older. What activities do you hope to be able to do when you get more free time? The effects on one’s liver and general health can really grow in time. If a group of people that are concerned about you held an Alcoholic Intervention and you’ve ignored it, take a little time to reflect on what they wanted you to hear.

Also, what are you missing now in your kids’ lives? You may be with them but the effects of alcoholism can make you less present than you’d be otherwise. They’ll sense you aren’t really participating. These years shape them and their choices in relationship partners, their self-esteem and belief in themselves.

I’ve had a lot of clients in my therapy practice that are children of alcoholics. Some drink and some don’t. Sometimes kids imitate their parents and end up in adolescent drug rehab. The ones that don’t drink all have stories and strong memories of their childhoods. They may not have resentment, but they talk about times when their recitals or sports games were skipped by their parent who was unable to go. Some also speak about how they didn’t really think they could acheive since their mom or dad didn’t do much with his or her life. This of course, isn’t always the case. Some kids decide to be opposite of their parents. They may though get involved with someone who has an addiction and they can be the savior in relation to.

Learn more about Effects of Alcoholism and break free by believing in your higher potential.

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